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Give me justice or let me die.

What will you say about a girl who is just 17 years old (9 year ago) having so many aspirations, studios; Just like any another college girl she also had dreams of brightening  her parent’s name and  today she is pleading for euthanasia.…… 

Well, I am talking about Sonali Mukherjee from Jharkhand who was pursing sociology honors in Dhanbad women’s college in 2003. Also juggling a job with a private firm and was part of the National Cadet Corps and was a senior sergeant. As I said she was very studious even she got scholarship from her college as well. She was very good looking at that time. She belongs to very a simple family. She has one younger brother and sister. Life was going so smooth for her. Her final year exams were approaching and she wants to concentrate more and more on studies. There were three men in her neighborhood one of who was in 40s and other two were 18 and 17 years old started trying to harass her; passing lewd comments and tails her; follows her. She got scared and frustrated and told about this incident to her father. Her father and brother complained to their families. But all in vain, instead of trying to make the things subtle, they blamed Sonali for everything saying today girls are like; there must be something wrong with your daughter. Passing comments, following, teasing continued for two and a half months; when it increased she decided to protest; she shouted at them in public and requested them to leave her alone. When she shouted at them; they got angry and thought of taking revenge. For the next 1 month or so there was no troublesome from their side. She thought now that three men will not trouble her again.

 

It was summer night of April, when whole family was asleep on the terrace of their house; she felt burning liquid splashed on her; melting away the flesh on her face, neck, the right part of her chest and lower torso. Yes, three men who were harassing her from past 2 months poured acid on Sonali’s face. That horrified acid attack on her also ended her dreams when she was hardly 17 years old. Her younger sister was also injured in the attack but she escaped with major injuries.

 

Her family took her to Dhanbad Hospital; she was continuously screaming in excruciating pain for next two days, there were no signs of improvement and deficiency of modern equipments for burnt cases Doctor’s referred her to Bokaro Hospital. Sonali was there for two months. Sonali’s father raised complaint against three of them. But no arrest had been taken place until Sonali’s Father approached Jharkhand Government. On the other side even after two months; when doctors not able to see any signs of improvement in Bokaro Hospital finally doctors suggested them Safdarjang Hospital New Delhi. Where, she underwent 22 surgeries. Doctors took skin from her thighs and grafted it on her nose and cheeks, to give it a modicum of shape.

Her father has spent Rs. 10-15 lakh in the court cases and on her treatment.. Her father, who had a menial job in a mill earning about Rs. 5,000 a month, has given up his job. Now, they need another 30 lakhs for further face reconstruction surgery.

 

Her younger sister, who also suffered acid burns on her hands and feet, was married off early; as they were getting threats and did not want it to ruin her life, so they got her married off. Her family was then forced to abandon their home in Dhanbad, and her mother slipped into depression. She also lost her grandfather who went into shock after the attack. They lost their ancestral land and jewels in her treatment, legal fee and innumerable hospital visits.

 

In the meanwhile, the youngest of the three men (one was 17 years old) was let off on account of being a juvenile, and after spending just 8 months he came out and leading a normal life; while the other two were convicted and sentenced by the district court in 2006 to nine year jail. However, they appealed in the high court, which granted them bail and they spend just 6 months behind bars and now they are both are on bail.

 

According to Sonali’s father, money was used at every stage of the case. “Justice was bought and sold. My own lawyer, who was my relative, took money from the accused and weakened our case.”

Recalling the days immediately after the attack, Sonali said all she remembers is waking up in excruciating pain. “I would scream in pain, and fall unconscious.. I was like that for six months…I would tell god to kill me.”

Ever since the tragedy, the father-daughter duo has spent most of the last nine years in either seeing doctors or visiting political leaders. “Both have given them hope, but it’s only the doctors who seem to have fulfilled their promise. The doctors are doing whatever they can, but no one else is helping me,” says Sonali.

Nine years after an acid attack left Sonali Mukherjee blind in both eyes, partially deaf and melted away the skin on the skull, neck, and chest and back, the 27-year-old is running penniless from pillar to post in Delhi for help from the government or permission for euthanasia.

“The sunglasses cover my eyes, while the duppata hides my burn scars and the ears,” she says.

At last, there are still some questions which left unanswered

  • What was Sonali’s fault? Those who are responsible for her condition are enjoying a normal life. They just spent less than a year in prison before they were granted bail.
  • A similar incident happened in UK, where one guy shoots a student just because of some ego issues and wanted to teach a lesson to him. After the hearing; the accused has been sentenced to thirty years jail and no more further hearing will be commenced in that case. As per their judiciary system, this human being is not normal to be in society; he should be behind the bars. Is our law too weak?

After 9 years, Jharkhand government offered a government job to Sonali. And a plastic surgeon offered free treatment to Sonali. All we can hope for better life for Sonali after her required treatments. And ‘The law against acid attackers needs to be made tougher. Otherwise we will have many more Sonalis.’

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Chinglish…

How you will feel where no one able to understand your language even if you speak English then majority of people are not able to understand… If they understand half of them are not able to reply. You are often playing dumb sharters to communicate.. You must feeling illiterate, dumb… Well, welcome to Mainland China!!

It has been almost 10 months nearly a year in China. So, I thought I should introduce Chinglish more precisely Chinese English or the way Chinese speaks to all my friends and glimpse of chinese culture…..

When, I was travelling to China for the first time. I was asked to attend internal sessions which includes bit of introduction to Chinese culture, travel formalities and little introduction to Chinese language. Main highlight of the session was that Chinese speaks English in a very different manner and slow not fluent like other western countries. Fair enough, every country has different pronunciation. But I would rather say English here is totally different and sometimes very difficult to understand. When, it comes to US, UK we still can understand they are fluent and clear and we often watch Hollywood movies/series so dealing with US, UK not a big deal. It was first time travelling to onsite and I was appointed as onsite coordinator. But when I landed here I got to know my role is more of translator (precisely middle ware)  help Chinese folks to understand Indian English and get the things done and vice-versa. And also English teacher for freshers.

You know English, A littal; When you will talk to Chinese first and ask, hey!! Do you know English, If the reply comes A littal (actually means little) that means he or she does know few words. For them, if they know “Hi, Hello, Bye, Thanks” That means they know English. There is no word “Wait”, they learned it as “Wait a Moment.”

Be Patient when dealing with Chinese: Chinese speak English very slow. So, you have to really patient and when you say or you want to convey something to them. Ask them again, what they understood; because the probability is very high of misinterpreting the information what you have just told them.

Not only they pronounce differently but they replace alphabets also :In China, the word ‘n’ referred as ‘l’, so night become light… nightmare becomes lightmare… now become low :P. So when they I am busy low that means they are busy now. I will call you afterlool that he will call me around afternoon. For them alphabet ‘r’ and ‘l’ are interchangeable. So Russian becomes lussian  a gal named Rhunjhun becomes Lunjhun and present become pleasant. Some words they pronounced really horrible; like colleague they will say conique. I am seak actually means sick. The word ‘th’ pronounced as‘s’. I was sinking means I was thinking. First time I met my teammate her name was Cathy she pronounced as “Casy”..

No sex discrimination: in china; there is no sex discrimination on grammatical grounds. Males, females, kids, old, young, boys, girls all are ‘He/his’. Generally, they don’t use she/her. So, it is pretty normal if they say He is a girl.

Analogy between Chinese and Punjabi: Being here for almost a year. I could find one analogy between Chinese and Punjabi. Chinese use word “Ni Hao” to say hello, and in Punjabi “Niii” is used to call a girl.; as it is Punjabi so it is little loud. When Chinese answer a phone call they say “Wey” which actually means a very good Hi… and again “Weyyy” is used to call a boy in Punjabi… Some of the words they actually say Punjabi. Just imagine how a Punjabi speaks “Joseph”, if I am not wrong “JoseFF..” J Once my colleague didn’t come to office; next day I asked why you didn’t come I was “seeck”

Chinese versus English Names: Chinese names are very difficult to pronounce. So every Chinese have English name and everyone is liberal enough to choose their own English name. But sometimes they ended up choosing horrible names. For instance, I got know some colleagues with names and reasons for choosing that name is more horrible; “Elephant”(why you chose this name – my elephant is my favorite animal),”Shotgun(because whenever I play counter strike I chose shotgun)” last but not least what if a guy named Fantasy… (reason being my favorite drink is Fanta and I have to choose a name on last minute during an interview).

One more incident, I would like to share, as all of us might have seen one or more Chinese movie or some Kung Fu series. So, once my teammates asked they want to watch some Indian movies of Shah Rukh Khan, I suggested DDLJ, K3G, KKHH. They all watched K3G and next day they came to me and asked when you landed in India or you are around; your mother also got to know that you are somewhere near or you are coming home; as our moms don’t feel any such kind of things. (First I thought what I should answer) because of enthusiasm I couldn’t say No. J.

At last, I would like to say Chinese are undoubtedly hard workers not smart workers. They don’t know English because they are not necessarily required (except some of the IT companies); there is only one language that is spoken country wide with difference in dialects. Unlike India, different states different languages and even within states difference in dialects. Other than international schools, nowhere English is taught in china. If a Chinese wants to learn English either he/she has to join International School which is way beyond costly or by the means of private coaching centers. Still, they are advanced in terms of technology, beauty and fashion.

P.S. By this blog I have tried to show a glimpse of Chinese English and not with the intentions to make offense to anyone be it Indian or Chinese. After all Chinese Indian (Bhai Bhai) 🙂

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Love,Lies

It is a common saying every relationship should be built on truth. In fact, trust, integrity, purity,forthrightness is basic pillars of a strong relationship. But sometimes or I would say in today’s era what if we have to compromise on one of the thing. So what you say relationship is not true or strong enough?

There was a guy Nikhil; an average guy with average looks. He was kinda fitness freak. One day he was doing his regular workout; a girl rushed into the gym. She was innocent, nice and but she was looking so much charming. Just like another guys Nikhil also stared at Isha. Nikhil found her so cute and somewhat he liked her. This is how Nikhil and Isha saw each other for the first time. Looking Through Your Eyes……. I mean this thing continues for some days. Isha also liked  Nikhil. From Isha point of view- She is girl, how can she initiate. From Nikhil Side- What if she snubs, slaps, rejects, stab etc. Nikhil was flooding with so many ideas – how to overcome all these phobias and talk to her. One day Isha was doing some exercise incorrectly. So Nikhil gentle enough told her, you are doing this wrong and he corrected her. I don’t know why girl got furious when someone corrected them, despite the generosity of poor guys; so do Isha. Even though she didn’t say anything not even thanks. But Nikhil could easily make out that she didn’t like it. “Poor start!!” Nikhil uttered.  But you never know what’s cooking in a girl mind. And also what’s written in the destiny.

After some days, Isha asked Nikhil about some abs exercise how to do it and could you support me doing this. After exercise; Nikhil thought this is the chance which I have been waiting for. Nikhil immediately said “Hi, I am Nikhil.” She said “Oh Hi!!I am Isha and I work for Microsoft and I am from New Delhi. I tried so many gyms before joining this gym. I guess this gym is costliest and the best in the city.” Nikhil somehow got the impression that she is some kinda of self obsessed girl, who is so much fascinated by the brands and she is so proud that the she works for Microsoft. On the opposite side; Nikhil even though, he was a very small town guy but he knows very well how to cover himself. So he also said I am also from Pune and I work for Cognizant.

So this is how Nikhil and Isha story starts. They started meeting each other outside the gym. Meeting becomes more and more frequent with each passing day. Just like another boy and girl they were also going out for movies, outings, trekking, coffee, chit chats, long calls, exchanging messages and so on. But still there was nothing more than friends. They didn’t realize, but they were getting used to each other so much. For Instance, If Nikhil has to go for shopping; he will call Isha and vice-versa. They were helping each other in making some important decisions as well.

With the rolling time, they got to know each other so well and liking, attraction becomes more and stronger from Nikhil side. Nobody knows from Isha side. Nikhil was kinda fallen for her; he wants to propose her but not in a simple way. He knows Isha so he was thinking to plan it something frenzy or extravaganza. So he thought of candle light dinner on her birthday which was coming next month.

Finally, the day arrived. It was Isha birthday and Nikhil planned it as he wanted. He arranged candle light dinner, roses and very exquisite gift for her. Nikhil also rehearsed it so many times how he will purpose. I will say this that to her. And I am damn sure she will say yes too. Then we will tell our friends, parents. Isha arrived; they cut the cake and had dinner. They enjoyed the dinner. After dinner Nikhil said –“Isha, I don’t know how you will react but I want to say something.” Isha smiled and said-“Sure…”

Nikhil – “The very first day I saw you, I liked you and it might sounded more of like melodramatic but I always felt some spark which make me more attracted towards you. I can see all the qualities in you which I am looking for my life partner. I have completely fallen for you. Day and night I think about you. But I want to tell you one truth today. I am not from Pune. I am not from well off family. In fact, I am a small town guy and from very simple family. I lied you because the day I talked to you, I was totally confused. I got illusive and I thought you might get attracted by the fact that I am from a rich background and eventually we will become friends; but now today I have realized my mistake. Please forgive me. I don’t want to force you for anything. Take your time. I told you which I feel for you.  ”

Isha became completely speechless. She was astounded by the fact her own friend lied to her. When you lied in very beginning how you can expect of any relationship further. She felt like betrayed. No relationship can survive based on falsehoods. She doesn’t know what to say; what to do next. What difference it had made by telling the truth. On the other hand, Nikhil intensely loves her. Whatever he said false to her; it was out of insecurity.

Isha said I want to leave now and I don’t want to discuss anything about it. She went back home. After that, there was no contact from Isha side. It has been six months and there is no contact from Isha side. Nikhil has tried to reach her but all in vain. Isha doesn’t want to talk to Nikhil.

I understand nobody would like to start a relation on apocryphal? But what if we are untruth to anyone out of insecurity; Does it really a lie. For Nikhil, a start of their relationship was at that time when he was proposing to Isha and he had confronted all his mistakes.

Today, they are not together. Sad, but true!!

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Love; Relationship; Addiction

What was that? Love; Relationship; Addiction.

I got always confused when I think about her? It was one fine evening when I was boozing with one of best buddy Shilpa in not so famous restaurant. It was basically so called condolence to my previous or recent breakup. Was surrounded by same stuff; I was never get into relationship again; It’s completely wastage of time. Look at me, I would have enjoyed of course not like Casanova but still at least had been roaming with 2 -3 girls. My friend was like give me break with these cheesy lines. I know you are Drunk.

Okay!! Hang on one of my friend is around. Should I call her? First question Is she hawwtt??.

Hard looks given by Shilpa; Umm!! I was just asking casually.

Listen (just like any other normal girl), if she joins us. You please behave normal; make sure nothing bizarre, no perverseness. I know it’s tough for you as you are already down with 4 pegs of absolute with Red Bull. But still, try to for me.

Okay, don’t behave like typical gal; I will try mah level best, with change in accent probably drunken accent. So drinks went on and on. All of sudden Shilpa got another call and she went out. Then Shilpa came back alone. I asked where your friend is. She is coming she is in parking lot. All of sudden, a hot chick came in white top and blue jeans. Naddy, she is Neha. Hey Hi, I am Naddy. I was about to ask “Are you single?” but again I was just scared of Shilpa. Afterwards, we had dinner together. So we say bye to each other and went home. But somehow I could not forget her cute face. I could easily recall her eyes, the way she was putting her hair behind her ears. I don’t know it was infatuation; probably she was the cutest girl I came across so far. Anyways, after two days we met again but again with Shilpa and I got to know she is single. So I directly ask what are your plans for marriage, not so soon, she replied gently. What about boy friend she just smiled.  “All guys are same” – I said girls are also same. Infect, both are bloody stereotypes.

After few days, I decided I want to meet Neha alone. I don’t know why but I just want to spend some more time with her. So I called her casually and she also said yes to meet me at CCD. It was nice meeting followed by movie “Ek Mei aur Ek Tu”. So these meeting went on and on for two months. I was kinda addicted to her. Long chats, calls, thanks to whatsapp, of course sometimes flirt as well.

Finally, one day Shilpa invited me for lunch at her home, firstly, I asked whether Neha is coming or not. She was like what if she will not coming you will not come; I said I didn’t mean it that way. I went for lunch, she asked “U like Neha-”. I said yes, so I think it’s time for you to take your relationship to next level. I was – Hold on, I liked her that doesn’t mean I want relationship from her. I just like to spend time with her. And we haven’t discussed anything like that between us. Naddy then what’s going on between you guys, Shilpa asked softly. I cleared one thing I like to spend time with Neha or you can say I addicted to Neha. Though, she is the best girl I came across, but for relationship I don’t feel anything like so, even I flirt with her. “Are you Sardar – You like her, you like to be with her”. But you don’t call it relationship. Are you feeling insecure – just because you will ask for relationship you will lose a nice friend.

I went back and thought of calling Neha. But couldn’t gather enough courage to call her and ask her. Should we be in relationship? So I remain same as I was so do Neha and Shilpa also refused to discuss anything about this.

After few days I got to travel to China. Before leaving for China, I met Neha and I thought I will ask Neha that all these ideas are also prevailing in your mind. But again I was enjoying being with her and just want the time should stop here.

Now, it’s almost three months and we are still in touch. But one idea always came to my mind; whether it is love or addiction.

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